Saturday, October 30, 2010

Love will find a way

I went out with my office gang to Big Chill today, it was a girls' evening out so mostly as expected we talked about our boyfriends: present and ex, fiancees and future husbands. We went on and on discussing about love, feelings and the like.

As it is in these days of inflated egos and independent lifestyles, we all agreed that adjusting with someone for an entire life time means a huge deal and so living in together might not be a bad option. It gives an insight into how your life would be in the future. As much as I agree to this, it saddens me to think that we have reached a stage where even after falling in love, after being committed to one person, there is so much more we contemplate about, so much more we need to try and test.

There is an oft repeated story, which I tell people. It is about my dad who when met my mom for the first time, scribbled on a piece of paper "Na tum hume jano, na hum tumhe jaane magar lagta hai kuch aisa mera humdum mil gaya". There are other stories too which reinforce my trust in love. Stories of uncles who wrote poems, love letters and traveled great deal to make a phone call to the one they were betrothed to. Love in that era was simple, pure, sweet and eternal. It was that leap of faith which people took and then never wavered for their entire lives.

The times might have changed and so have the stories. The only common thread (with women of course) which remains still is the desire to be with that one man, to be with that one man who will go down on his knees and express his love. That one man who will be the knight in shining armour. That one man after meeting whom, the heart will say that Love has found its way.


pRasad said...

Even we guys want "that one girl" who will sweep us off our feet with her nature, smile etc. and yeah..even we discuss about our prospective wives :)

Uday your relationship counselor said...

This is a beautiful piece of writing. Live-in relationship is one thing. But to enter live-in to see how life will be equal to biting an apple to know the taste of an orange.

Its a big topic. It all ideally should begin with finding out what exactly one wants and then it is an endless process of constantly working on the relationship.